I ronically, many children raised in wealth demonstrate the same tendencies as those who are raised in extreme poverty: depression, despair, attempted suicide, drug and alcohol use, and even shoplifting. Why this behavior? The parents, who are way too busy making money, substitute extravagant purchases for something money can’t buy: meaningful time with their children . Admittedly, raising children in a world obsessed with stuff is a tough, tough job. As savvy advertisers target these kids from early youth, and as their peers are quick to sport whatever the latest and greatest may be, the parents must be vigilant in teaching their children that such possessions do not make one happy, and, in fact, are detrimental to true happiness. So…in this materialistic society, how does one go about raising non-materialistic children? These tips will help: Practice what you preach. If you buy cars to impress others, shop regularly just to be shopping and “have to have” whatever the latest electronic gadget might be, don’t bother reading the rest of this article. Why? Because what you do screams to your children louder than anything you can ever say. Albert Schweitzer said it well, “ There are only three ways to teach a child. The first is by example; the second is by example; the third is by example. ” Your first step, therefore, is to purge materialism from the person you see in the mirror. Spend time with your children. Do you find yourself giving gifts to your children to make up for lack of personal attention? Reality check: they won’t. Ever. You are, instead, sending the message that you think stuff is more important than a close relationship. Let “ The Cat’s in the Cradle ” lyrics resonate deeply. This Harry Chapin classic is a haunting reminder that once those child rearing years are gone, you will never get them back. Cherish every moment you can spend with your children. Rein in your Christmases. Somehow, someway, many parents missed the memo: “ Christmas is not a license to overly indulge your children ”. No matter how you justify it, overspending on your children just because it is Christmas is still overspending on your children. Try celebrating the true spirit of Christmas with your children instead of piling up stuff for them. Our children, who are now grown, still have fond memories of the hours we spent together baking cookies and making homemade Christmas cards to give the inmates at a local prison. Create your own family traditions that involve time together and giving to others. Your children will cherish those memories. Help them prioritize their own money. As your children become old enough to have their own money, help them prioritize that money. A very simple plan is to give some, save some and spend some. If you emphasize giving, you will be helping your child develop a heart for others. Because giving is the opposite of materialism, you need to constantly role model a giving spirit. Support a child in a poverty nation. Need something for that “giving” money to go for? How about supporting a child in a third world country. Children have a natural empathy for other children, so if your kids can support a child with real needs, they will not only learn to love that child, but will also appreciate whatever material possessions they already own. Take them on foreign mission trips. I have been fortunate enough to accompany all four of my children on short term mission trips to Mexico . Three went while in high school; the fourth as an adult. Nothing, absolutely nothing will impact kids more than seeing poverty up close and personal. Amazingly, the lesson my kids came back with over and over again was how happy those people (who had nothing) were. Talk about an antidote to materialism…these mission trips have been first hand proof that stuff doesn’t equal happiness. Take a field trip to a dump. I borrow this idea from Randy Alcorn’s book “Managing God’s Money” . Show your children all these piles of “treasures” that were once Christmas and birthday presents. Discuss how everything we own today will likewise end up in a junkyard like this one. Read 2 Peter 3:10-14 together (a passage that tells of how everything in this world will some day burn), then use this teachable moment to discuss true riches which transcend life here on planet earth. Tip: ask them this question: “ When everything we have ever owned is someday burned, what, in your lives, do you think will last forever? ” Readers: In what ways are you helping your children avoid materialism? What could you be doing better? Related Articles: How much does it cost to raise a child & 10 ways to cut the cost! Children and Allowance: Flat Rate or Chores-Based? How to Create Memories Instead of Buying Stuff Boomerang Kids – How to Handle Them Returning To The Nest How to Teach Kids About Money How to give your children financial stability and eliminate the entitlement mentality 5 Ways to Show Love to Your Kids Without Spending a Dollar Joe Plemon, a retired engineer, financial counselor and blogger, lives in Southern Illinois with Janice, his wife of 40 years. Joe likes online Scrabble, St Louis Cardinal baseball, blues music, power naps, high school football, short term mission trips and Sunday family dinners. You can read more from Joe at Personal Finance by the Book . The articles on this site are for entertainment purposes and should not be taken as financial advice. Please contact a financial professional for specific advice regarding your situation. Also, many of the CPF articles help us pay the bills by using affiliate relationships with Amazon, Google, eBay and others. Find out more here .
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How to Raise Non-Materialistic Children