True Perspective from Two Phone Calls

Life can change with one phone call. As a minister, it is not uncommon to get a call that changes my day (or even my week). Each time my cell phone rings, it could change a lot of things for me. Most often, that change is in scheduling. I might have to find a different time to work on one particular lesson, because I need to go to the hospital, or it might be that more time is now available, because someone just does not need visitors that day. Sadly, we think of such calls as changes in schedule primarily, while in reality they should change something far more important: our perspective. And it happened just last week, with two phone calls in less than 20 hours. They changed—or, rather, refocused—my perspective. The First Call The first call actually came to my wife’s cell phone, but she could not answer and asked me to get it. It was a friend from church, calling with glorious news. Friends of ours, who also worship with us, had been trying to adopt for some time, and they got “the call” from the agency in another state. We were thrilled to know that their wait was over. Having gotten that same message by phone before (our oldest child is adopted), we knew the mix of emotions, and it reminded me of hope and comfort. The Second Call Less than 20 hours later, I was picking up the phone in my office to call one of the members of our congregation. Her husband had been terribly sick, and I knew he was hanging on to life by the thinnest of margins. She answered the phone, and I said hello. What she said next floored me. Through tears, she said, “It’s over. [He] died about five minutes ago.” Now we were both speaking with great emotion. The call did not last long, but it had a strong impact that I just happened to be the first one to call after his passing. Hearing his very-newly widowed wife’s emotions, both loss and relief, moved me to put my head in my hands for a few moments, too. How All This Matters What does any of this have to do with personal finance? It’s that these two phone calls were both calls of perspective, reminding me of some things that are truly important. I do not know how much money our friends have spent in trying to adopt a child. I know what our adoption costs were, but I know couples who have literally spent many times what we spent as we have in adoption. But, I also know that, when that phone call comes, the money is never a concern. The anticipation, joy, comfort, and relief of gaining that child supersede any thought of finance. Of course, there will be bills later, but they no longer seem to be as important. Perspective. I also have no idea how much money was spent trying to keep our older friend well and comfortable. I’m positive there was insurance in place, but he struggled mightily, so the costs had to build. However, when that loved one passes on, money is the furthest thing from your mind. You are relieved that their suffering is over. You are terribly saddened by your loss. You are overwhelmed by “the moment,” and trying to think ahead to details of the funeral, contacting people, and other matters. Money, though, just is not important right then. Perspective. Is money an important issue? Of course it is. I would not be writing this post for this site, and the large number of readers who come to sites like this one and other personal finance sites would not do so if money were not important. But, dear reader, take money into proper perspective. Is it more important than the joys of family? Is it more important than the well-being of those who are suffering? Is it more important than the family who just added a bundle of joy, or the family that just lost a dear loved one? In less than 20 hours, I had what some might call a “reality check.” I prefer to think of it as a moment of refocus upon perspective. Be intentional with your finances, but never put them above your relationship with God, your family, or your dear friends. Use your money to further the cause of the Lord, and to deepen your ties with friends and family. Don’t wait for a phone call to bring you back to true perspective. Have that proper perspective, and start today. What things are more important than money in your life? Meet us in the comments, we want to hear from you! This guest post is part of the  CPF Writer Auditions . A husband of one and father of two, Adam Faughn is a preacher in Nashville, Tennessee. You can read his blog  here  or follow him Twitter  here . Related Articles: How to get FREE long-distance calls through the internet Jitterbug Review: A cell phone that is just a phone? 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True Perspective from Two Phone Calls

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